Day 22 - a website that has been meaningful since your loss.
I can't even begin to name all the blogs that have been helpful to me since Stella died.
Malory's was the first though- Mommy of an Angel. Malory and I grew up together, went to school together, played field hockey together but our circles never overlapped too much. I found out her baby girl, Janessa, died in May 2009 right around the same time I got pregnant with Stella. I have to admit I didn't reach out. I didn't know how to and I thought it might be weird because I hadn't seen her or talked to her in so long. I feel bad now because she reached out to me when Stella died and it wasn't weird at all! In fact, it was a relief. I will never again think it weird to reach out to someone no matter how long ago I knew them or how new they are in my life. I treasure each card and note we received when Stella died. Those were all the people that our story touched, that Stella's life touched, and even if they don't think of her everyday they know she existed.
Malory and I met and talked about our daughters and she shared with me the blog she started to help deal with her loss. I read it and went to all the links she had and slowly started adding blogs to my Reader. I have about 20 now that I read on a regular basis. I've become friendly with other BLMs and, like I said yesterday, they have all been such comfort to me.
Malory now has other blogs that she uses to help parents who have lost babies. Every Life Has A Story is where she makes free memorial videos for families to keep their childrens' memories alive. Keeping Their Memory Alive is a collection of memorial videos made by other parents. And Butterfly Footprints is where she takes the footprints of babies and makes them into beautiful butterflies!
Malory, thank you so much for helping guide me along this path. I wish we didn't have this in common but I really appreciate what you've done for me. And I hope in three short months we will be sharing something else in common, healthy little babies. Much love.
2 comments:
This post brought tears to my eyes...the last paragraph especially. It is so wonderful that you have someone that you can walk this journey with, who truly understands. The journey of grief and of joy with your rainbow babies.
I have read your post through a couple times. In fact I first read it days ago, I just didn't know what to say :)
I will never forget learning of Stella's death. The pain I felt for you hit me so hard. I felt my own pain & was devastated you and R would now be starting on the same road of grief. Please do not feel bad for not reaching out to me when Janessa died. I had already been thrown into this reality when your Stella died & that made contacting you natural. Before Janessa died I am not sure what & if I would have said anything to you. I try & keep that perspective when I think of those in my own life who never reached out to me.
I am glad I have been able to help you a little on this journey. It has been nice knowing there is someone out there who knows my pain (even tho I wish you didn't) & having someone to shoot an email to, have lunch (which we should do again soon), who was from "real life". Stella's life story has touched me & you both will always have a piece of my heart.
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